Ghost-Egotism Disorder

& How To Cultivate Ordinary Enjoyment

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This is an entry in the #GhostSchool101 series

Today i am going to be extremely direct and in some ways, ruthless with the wisdom transmission.

As someone whose fate is “haunted” and has experienced numerous kinds of possessions and exorcisms in my 44 years of this incarnation, i have accumulated a wealth of experiences and wisdom in terms of understanding what’s really going on in the realms of so-called mental illness, personality disorders and various “negative” attitudes.

I won’t have enough time, or proper protective relationality, to go into every tiny corner of this vast topic, but in the end, that doesn’t matter because people who nitpick are essentially ghostly anyway and want to “what if/but if” endlessly, with zero practicing of a different embodiment or mindset.

My article today is focused on people who are determined to make a positive difference in the lives of others, and who are not pre-occupied with themselves.

The first part of this article will be defining what ghost-egotism is, and the second part will be on cultivating human-normal.

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1. “Ghost-Egotism”: Fire Feeding Fire

This describes the ego of a ghost, or a ghostly person — someone whose embodiment and mindset/perception have already been shifted towards ghostly and away from human-normal.

A ghost is a sick entity (aka not normal human) that cannot change and is seemingly trapped in negative, intense, experiences (emotions, thoughts, sensations, etc) and not only are they sick, but they are also pre-occupied with their sickness and their own experience.

One can be sick and NOT pre-occupied. This would be someone who is still human or closer to the spectrum of human normal.

Another aspect of a ghost is that they cannot manage intensity, that is, they cannot manage their own embodiment/perception around various intense phenomena that their system is experiencing. They do not “recover”, they cannot align with their natural recovery which would allow their pain, fear and hunger to be buffered and managed. They cannot tolerate things, they cannot auto-regulate or self-regulate. Their integrity is un-integrous. They cannot seem to change based on their own will.

Ghost-egotism displays in many forms, often related to narcissistic tendencies, such as an excessive combination of wanting to and behaving in these ways:

NOTE: none of this is pathologization or medicalization, I am coming from a COMPLETELY DIFFERENT WORLDVIEW-COSMOLOGY.

• over-analyze

• dissociate

• make excuses

• complain

• blame

• feel excessive shame/guilt

• “what if/but if”

• tell their story over and over again

• think “about” things (abstract conceptualization is non-relationality)

• ruminate excessively

• imagine into terrible pasts and or futures

• tell stories about terrible pasts and or futures

• jump out of the present moment

• always find the negative and amplify it

• argue/debate

• always wanting/craving something else, over “there”

• always having an internal clause such as “i can’t feel (insert good feeling/experience) until… (insert impossible moving goalpost challenges)”

• fixation

• constant need to reify their own identity narrative

• constantly defending and believing others are attacking/defending

• fragility (not the same as sensitivity!)

• morbidity

• extreme pessimism, fear

• fixation on what “words really mean”

• inability to connect with others

• inability to maintain attention fluidly

• inability to regulate emotions with restraint (not the same as repression)

• confused and hating feeling confused (confusion is creativity, except when we hate it)

• hatred of feeling “powerless/weak”

• hatred of perceived “strength” or agency in others

• always wanting to “escape”

• unable to regulate appetite in general (not only related to food)

• addiction

Looking at this partial list, you might realize that most human people are in fact, on a spectrum that is more ghostly than human.

In fact, it is normal to give ghosts a ride, temporarily, but it has become common to let those ghosts stay indefinitely and begin to psychologize and personalize the ghost’s experience with your own human embodiment, thus, becoming more ghostly as time goes on.

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It is in the best interest of our shared economies-of-oppression that this model of understanding spirits, ancestors, ghosts and possession has been labeled as “un-scientific” and superstitious.

It is in the best interest of ghosts and demons to keep this cycle obscured, even if many of the ghosts deeply wish to be freed.

It is in the best interest of Theist Materialists to keep this all labeled as "woo-woo” or “voodoo”.

It is in the best interest of grifters, cultists and con artists to use this as the pain point to leverage.

It is also of note that most people claim that normal is somehow wrong, evil or bad. That being special, abnormal, and exceptional are what we should strive to be. It has gone so far that now many people are identifying as “neuro-divergent” in some half-witted attempt to exception-alize themselves away from some imagined horror of normal. This is just the chickens coming home to roost, aka what goes around comes around aka ancestral momentum aka karma.

There were/are a lot of supposedly “neuro-diverse” (cough animist cough) people that were murdered in the name of progress, and humanity has polluted the earth and pissed off many nature spirits. Ergo, children being born today are being born from the unresolved strata of the ancestral stream. Yes, of course it was always like this, and also there’s more human bodies alive on the planet than ever before. Do the math (if you can).

If you think you need a special label to defend yourself from fate, well, there’s the crux of the issue in a nutshell. You probably need training, not a new hashtag identity label to virtue signal to “members of your special tribe”. However, if that’s your jam, karma will come around again for you eventually, and your so-called tribe will exile you because of how ghosts replay their own fears and complicities as a way to re-enact the drama of their estrangements. Best to get off the merry-go-round and touch grass.

ACTUAL Human-Normal is “neuro diverse” but not fixated on how different/special they are. I will speak much more about normal in the second part.

If you are like most people (and you ARE), you have exhibited ghost-egotism behaviors/embodiment in your life, and you definitely have met people who are extremely in the pit of ghost-egotism.

However, modern cultures amplify and rewards ghost-egotism in some of its forms.

Therefore, it can feel confusing and crazy-making to try and become human-normal when many other people around you are essentially possessed by weird things and there doesn’t seem to be much you feel you can do about it. In some skill trainings, various forms of “exorcism” are called something else, and that’s how many people deal with this underlying ecosystem of ghosts and possession. It is very uneven though, and usually not as accurate as it needs to be for human-normal health to thrive.

To make matters worse, most of modern, white culture is still in a kind of traumatic over-correction from the horrors of World War Two, which has actually fed into MORE ghosts.

All the various ancestral momentum co-factors have led to a hyper-competitive scarcity embodiment, which separates personal bodies from group bodies, and group bodies from land bodies. This cuts off distribution of intensity and concentrates intensity (un-distributed). This also “splits” the mind and the body further into extreme positions of yang (mental) and yin (physical), where the yang begins to fuel itself rather than bond intimately with the yin.

In other words, the mind (mental models & approximate interpretations) loops into the mind, creating more estrangement (distance) of mind and body. Yang feeds yang and creates a kind of yang derangement - overanalyzing, over-conceptualizing, over-imagining, over-visualizing, etc. Yang’s nature is also to expend energy (to create movement, heat and light), the “opposite” end of yin’s aspect which is nourishing, stabilizing, slowing down. When the yang/mind falls into an addictive pattern of engaging with itself, this creates a hot, fast, fiery quality that burns fuel (nourishment) at an alarming rate, mirroring and creating the conditions on earth of the same behaviors (burning forests, climate change, ozone depletion, coal, oil, etc).

This leads to a psycho-pathologizing of COPING & Specialization/Exceptionalism/Personalization, an ab-normaling of humanness towards some kind of fantasy archetype (gods, deities, angels, etc) that are in some ultimate battle against other fantasy archetypes (demons, devils, ghosts, etc).

This “Upper World/Good Vs. Lower World/Evil” fantasy is played out as consumer culture. Theistic Materialism as “normal”.

I’ve spoken much about ghosts before (check out older posts), and there are many ways to speak about ghosts, but the main issue is always being able to sense how YOU are being dicked around by your own ghosts on the daily.

2. A Radical Responsibilizing of Embodiment Towards Human-Normal:

“How to Cultivate Ordinary Enjoyment”